So on Tuesday while I was at work, Renee from DDSO called. She left a message on my voice mail about moving Tim to a house in Rush... because he isn't walking well (she says), and it's a dire emergency to move him at this time. There are a few problems I have with this. The house is NOT a home. It looks uncared for and uninviting from the outside, just a dull place in the middle of nowhere.
The inside leave much to be desired as well. It's large, echoey, and cold, and I don't mean just the temperature, but the whole look. To top it off, I was told by someone that the residents there are low functioning. My brother is not. Of course, my sisters and I are against the move, but it's being forced. I was on speaker phone Wednesday morning with Renee, Kim, and Wes King, all trying to persuade me of how badly Tim needs this "for his own safety". BUT every time we see him he's walking great, and I told them this. It was to no avail though, as I was once again told that he trips over the thresh hold, can not do the stairs easily, and shuffles his feet, causing someone to need to walk with him at all times. I ended up in tears, and decided to pop in on Tim for a visit later that afternoon. When I got there, he was having a fit as Erin was putting a Depends on him so that he could go for a ride with me...I have them do this because he has wet my car seat on a few occasions. She hadn't told him I was coming because I had failed to say exactly when I was going to be there, and she didn't want to overly excite him. When he saw me, he instantly settled, grabbed my hand, and we were off! He had no trouble walking, in fact he practically ran down the front steps, his hand in mine. Once again I was failing to see his difficulty walking, and the emergency to move him out of the home he has known for 20 years, aside from a 3 year stint in a house across the street when he was put on a med that suddenly took away his ability to walk on his own. "Is he on a new medication?", I had asked at the time. "Nope, nothing new", I was told. Very shortly after he was moved his ability to walk suddenly came back. When I inquired as to why he had lost his ability to walk and then regained it as if nothing had ever happened, I was told, "We took him off of the new medication". But I thought he wasn't on a new med? We had been lied to. They moved him back into his home 3 years later when an opening became available, but a few short months later he "tripped over the leg of a chair" and walked with a limp after hurting his lag when he fell. Since that time they have said his walking has gotten worse and worse....although we don't see a problem at all. I have been told he has "Athritis in his spine" and "He has a drug induced Parkinson like disorder that's only going to get worse". "He's not on any new meds", we are told once again. I did talk to Tim about the whole situation as we drove down the country roads through Yates County. I told him that we don't think the Rush house is a good move for him, and he told me he doesn't want to move. Upon our return back to his home, he took off for the bathroom (unassisted) to remove his Depend, and came back to the kitchen (unassisted) to usher me toward the door. He did not shuffle his feet or seem unsteady. I'm thinking they want to move him to make room for someone else. We are praying that God allows him to stay where he is until something opens up with Heritage homes. I wish they would return my calls.
This is us a couple of weeks ago on our visit. I love him,
The inside leave much to be desired as well. It's large, echoey, and cold, and I don't mean just the temperature, but the whole look. To top it off, I was told by someone that the residents there are low functioning. My brother is not. Of course, my sisters and I are against the move, but it's being forced. I was on speaker phone Wednesday morning with Renee, Kim, and Wes King, all trying to persuade me of how badly Tim needs this "for his own safety". BUT every time we see him he's walking great, and I told them this. It was to no avail though, as I was once again told that he trips over the thresh hold, can not do the stairs easily, and shuffles his feet, causing someone to need to walk with him at all times. I ended up in tears, and decided to pop in on Tim for a visit later that afternoon. When I got there, he was having a fit as Erin was putting a Depends on him so that he could go for a ride with me...I have them do this because he has wet my car seat on a few occasions. She hadn't told him I was coming because I had failed to say exactly when I was going to be there, and she didn't want to overly excite him. When he saw me, he instantly settled, grabbed my hand, and we were off! He had no trouble walking, in fact he practically ran down the front steps, his hand in mine. Once again I was failing to see his difficulty walking, and the emergency to move him out of the home he has known for 20 years, aside from a 3 year stint in a house across the street when he was put on a med that suddenly took away his ability to walk on his own. "Is he on a new medication?", I had asked at the time. "Nope, nothing new", I was told. Very shortly after he was moved his ability to walk suddenly came back. When I inquired as to why he had lost his ability to walk and then regained it as if nothing had ever happened, I was told, "We took him off of the new medication". But I thought he wasn't on a new med? We had been lied to. They moved him back into his home 3 years later when an opening became available, but a few short months later he "tripped over the leg of a chair" and walked with a limp after hurting his lag when he fell. Since that time they have said his walking has gotten worse and worse....although we don't see a problem at all. I have been told he has "Athritis in his spine" and "He has a drug induced Parkinson like disorder that's only going to get worse". "He's not on any new meds", we are told once again. I did talk to Tim about the whole situation as we drove down the country roads through Yates County. I told him that we don't think the Rush house is a good move for him, and he told me he doesn't want to move. Upon our return back to his home, he took off for the bathroom (unassisted) to remove his Depend, and came back to the kitchen (unassisted) to usher me toward the door. He did not shuffle his feet or seem unsteady. I'm thinking they want to move him to make room for someone else. We are praying that God allows him to stay where he is until something opens up with Heritage homes. I wish they would return my calls.
This is us a couple of weeks ago on our visit. I love him,
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He’s long overdue for something very good to happen. I hoe Heritage works out for him and that it’s a positive change if it does,
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